Should've, Would've, Could've

Louise Hay

Do you ever look back at your life with some regret? Ever wonder what your life would be like if you would've gone to University, lived in a foreign country, or married your first love? It's OK if you nod your head wondering if you made the best choices. After all, we live in a society that gets bored easily and is constantly in search of "the next best thing". Take Apple's iPad phenomenon as a perfect example. The iPad was released in April 2010, the iPad 2 in March 2011, and the iPad (3rd Generation) was just released in March 2012. Of course, genius marketing brainwashes us into believing that our outdated tech buddy just isn't good enough anymore. However, we the people, are always wanting better, faster, newer.
Ever think you're not good enough because you should've: graduated with a master's degree, accepted the other job offer, had two kids instead of one, or learnt to cook like Martha Stewart? In my case, none of the above apply, however I have caught myself saying that I should've completed my course fully, continued teaching yoga and by now I would've probably owned my own studio. While talking to a friend today, at one point she said, "I regret not taking that job back then. I should've accepted it and today I'd be..." - Freeze! Why do we always blame ourselves for the decisions we've made? Why don't we ask ourselves why we made those decisions instead and accept the lesson?
Listen carefully. Today you, me, we are exactly where we're supposed to be. There's a reason why my friend didn't accept that job. There are no coincidences, no accidents, no mistakes in life. Everything that is happening is happening exactly the way it's meant to happen, in order for your soul to grow and evolve. The Universe gives you what you need, when you need it. You also hear what you need to hear when you're ready and open to receiving that information.
Living with regret, in my humble opinion, just makes you a victim of an optical illusion. You think you're life would be better if you would've done things differently. Yet this better life you're visualizing is a false impression of reality. Had you done this or that instead, who's to say your life would be greater today? Even if you were a chain smoker and have been diagnosed with lung cancer, you still shouldn't think that had you stopped smoking, you wouldn't be ill today. Again, there's a whole Universe around us that dictates every moment we're living. It also gives us messages with answers to our worries, joys and tribulations. Forgive yourself for your past, forget what could've been and accept what is. Live in the now because you'll never get back the minute that just past. Love who you are right this instant. Accept the fact that every choice and decision you've made was right - for you! Thank the Universe for surprising you daily with exactly what you need.