One taught me patience
Every person that comes into your life is either a mirror or a teacher.
I'll spare you the names of those I've "loved and lost", those who've poked at old wounds, or those that continue to show up to teach me the lesson, again. The truth is, I don't label any of my relationships as a loss. If you park your ego, you'll realize that we attract people along our path to help us learn, grow, evolve, even develop qualities we need at that time. Some will teach you love, patience, pain. Others will be the light, your comfort, your home. And then you have the ones that will teach you how to love yourself. They'll hurt you, make you second guess your self-worth, or drain your energy. Here's the game-changer though - when you lose your sense of self, you attract those that'll feed off of that energy, and you'll give your power away. All are teachers or mirrors. We're always giving people permission on how we want to be treated. You decide, always.
Then one day, you'll discover a new love that you know is gon' last, 'cause her name is ___________(insert your name here). The relationship with yourself, will be amazing from the lessons you've cultivated through love and pain.
In everything I attract in my life, I always look for the lesson from the teacher or the mirror. Most times, I make the honour roll. Sometimes I'm a slooooow learner. I need to repeat the mistake. Feel the pain, again. Fight with my intuition (because I know better)! Just know that before you throw shade at anyone that hurt you, try to understand the assignment first. Every relationship is an opportunity to expand or shrink. You choose the result.
Wherever you've landed along my life path, thank you for showing up, doing your thing, staying behind or walking beside me. Your lesson was essential for the next level of my evolution. I'll continue to be tested, as will you. Too bad there aren't cheat sheets to prep us for what lies ahead. Life is a mix of beautiful and brutal moments that present themselves when the student is ready. Continue to say, "thank u, next", because you've been preparing for 'next' for a long time - that's how you turned out amazing!
Here's to our teachers - May they continue to show up when we're ready to learn from them.
"I've got so much love
Got so much patience
I've learned from the pain
I turned out amazing"
